I have been with the man I now call by husband for over 7 years and we have been married for 4 months. Although we love each other dearly, we were terrible at celebrating the anniversary of when we became a couple officially. I admit, initially, I took it as a bad sign because what kind relationship has it where neither person remembers to celebrate their relationship at least on a yearly basis?
After the wedding, the high of my fresh matrimonial excitement had me on a roll of researching things regarding relationships. I stumbled upon an article in which a woman who had been married for decades shared that she and her husband celebrate their marriage on a monthly basis opposed to a yearly one. My original thought was, “well, won’t that get a bit excessive.” Then I paused, remembered our lack of celebration in the past, and thought again.
Perhaps all those previous anniversaries were overlooked because they were too spaced a part. The hustle and bustle of life preoccupied our brains and in the shuffle of all that can occur over the course of 365 days, it may be hard to remember to celebrate one in particular – especially since we had been living together for years before we married. I shared the concept with him and he and I agreed we’d prefer our marriage to be something of a new start for us.We decided to take a page out of the article, figuratively, and hop on the monthly celebration plan.
So far, what we have found is that we mind each other more often. We find that we want to do more of the little things to recognize our special union. Since we were married on the 20th of the month, the end of the month feels more like a new beginning. We are more inclined to talk things out as to not spoil moments around that day which takes more effort to do within 30 days then 12 times that. Consistent effort is key for any good relationship, of course.
Now, I have wondered if “monthiversaries” would somehow diminish the annual marks. However, I imagine it does not. In fact, I think it might grants us an opportunity to do whatever we want on our actually anniversaries. Instead of the pressure to make on day a year great, be it out of obligation or otherwise, we are more frequently reminded that each month is special. And the more I think about that, it reminds me more of how each day is just a special. After all, ’til death do us part and life isn’t as long as most of us would expect it to be.
So, why wait?